I WILL FIND YOU

Netflix’s show I Will Find You is an absolute must-watch for parents with older teens. It is about a father who is wrongfully accused of killing his own son. His family has fallen apart, his ex-wife has a new husband and is pregnant again, while he is still in prison.

Then he gets an unexpected visit from his ex-wife’s sister, which changes everything. She shows him a picture where his son appears to be alive, and suddenly he has hope again. He flees prison to find his son, and what I like is that we also get to see what happened years ago and why. I don’t like shows where I have to guess the reason behind everything.

I Will Find You gives us so many options to talk about with our teenagers. First, there is the reality of how fast people accept crazy rumors and don’t even bother to ask the person if they are true. This loving father and husband is suddenly seen as a monster who killed his son and squashed his face until he was unrecognizable, and almost nobody stops to think that maybe this cannot be true.

We can ask our teens what they would do if something unexpected happened with family or friends, or when there are rumors among their friends or at school. Would they question it or believe it? And how do we build the courage to speak out, not believe everything we hear and not judge so fast?

The other thing that is very obvious in this show is toxic love and obsession. It shows that love can turn into obsession very fast and that this can become dangerous. People can convince themselves that the things they are doing are out of love, even when they are not.

We can talk with our teenagers and ask them what they think the difference is between genuine love and toxic obsession. And what would they do if a partner or friend tried to tell them how to live or control what they do? I think this is a very important topic because teenagers should understand that controlling someone is not a sign of love.

I Will Find You is a thriller and it will make you want to watch it all at once to see what happens, but at the same time, there is so much in the story that is worth talking about with our teens.